Paint’s Blog

she is Dying..

it’s a very long story that i’ll try to get into lattter..

but in a nut shell she remarried 15 years ago after my real grandfather died in 1978 ,

this blubba that she marrired has used my grandmother keep her as his slave and left her to die after exsploting her and effectivly destroying my family.

we had tried for the past 8 years to get her out of the situation, but the athorities in NY said that unless she saw what was going on it was her disicion. and by then he had her so indoctrinated with ” you family will never take care of you” bull that she refused to belive us or accept evidence that was collected to the contray..

recently she has ended up in a care center due to his lack of care for her at home.

a in home nurse finally noticed her bed soresand requested she be moved to a hospital about 3 or 4 weeks ago.

inb the last week he talked her into signing every thing over to him. and has basically left her to rot since..

update from my aunt:

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Just to let you know. Mom said she filled out one of the cards you sent. I don’t know who she gave it to mail. She tries so hard and I feel so helpless because I can’t do anything. She is in the hands of fiends. I straightened out her room Sunday. There were flowers in vases which were all dead and smelled awful as no one would take out the old and put in new water. I don’t think he goes as much anymore, but then why should he, he has accomplished his mission, he has it all!
my aunt gave us a update today but the family is powerless against him and his crooked laywer.

she pretty much told my aunt patty she gives up..

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…….Mom is very depressed and said that she knows she will not get better. In a week she seems to have gotten weaker and is not eating as she should. The dialysis just wipes her out. I am so glad that Bob and Ginger came when they did. ….

Sad

to add to the weird drama sourouding her husbands family….
his son from his previous marrige died mysteriously.. i feel bad for the sons immediate family i guess he was technically my step uncle, but her husband keep the families so polarized…

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….I went to see Mom the other day. She was kind of out of it (she saw a fire truck in the vase of flowers on the sink). She said that **** shot himself. She also said that Ginger flew up for the funeral. So I don’t know what is truth, and what is fiction. I believe he probably did commit suicide as everyone is in a tizzy to keep it hushed up. The obituary did not say anything (of course it wouldn’t) but the family stated that he was a devoted father and took his children snowmobiling and camping. I guess I can’t understand how any devoted parent could do such a selfish thing as take their life and leave their children, but I guess I don’t subscribe to the ****philosophy. …

i just hope she passes quitely, the family is devastated but she saw this too late and it’s killled her,

a little history:

ohh you know i vent ot you
and you vent ot me
i still lelfey needs to get me a plane ticket ot of ther
OHHHH
and i got this gem fro mmy mom a littel while ago

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Dear Mary-Margaret,
Not that you can/should do anything but wanted to let you know Gma M is in Arden Hill Hospital. It’s her congestive heart failure . Fluid builds up and makes it hard for her to breathe. Her kidneys are not able to pump the fluid out of her fast enough. She may need to go on a dyalisis machine to assist the kidney function.
Dad and Aunt Patty can’t do anything, God knows they have tried in the past. J is in charge. Ginger called hospital and was able to talk with Grandma and J. He’s sweet as ever to her as usual. We hope the Doctors will insist she goes to a nursing home and not back to Montgomery.  that would be a sure death sentence. All we can do is say some prayers that Gma is comfortable and J gets hit by a truck.
Gma V also had some not good news this week. Her blood counts were way low and she is severely anemic. She must go to oncologist tuesday for consultation.  I’ll keep you posted on both grandmothers.
Ya know….I was thinking….you are so good about those rings….maybe you saw them and unconciously put them safely in your pocket? Did you carefully check all your laundry? I lost $40 a few weeks ago and finally discovered it in my pants pocket, they were hanging in my closet.
Anyway, we’re off to Mass to say some special prayers for Gma and that your rings appear miraculously!
love, Mom

he is going to kill her and she is too brainwashed to let us help her……June 30, 2007, 08:56:48 PM

nov 25th 2007

I left a message on Bob’s cell to call me.  I know you have been busy with Ginger but I just wanted you to know that I was at the nursing home around noon.  Mom was slumped over in her wheelchair asleep with her lunch in front of her.  I couldn’t wake her and went to get the nurse.  The nurse said that she had had several people tell her Mom was asleep.  Mom had some food on her shirt that look like she had vomited.  The lady in the bed next to her told me she was worried about Mom as she had some stomach problems and was unable to eat.  When I went back in with the nurse she got Mom to wake up (she was a lot louder than me) and she saw me and smiled and then nodded off back to sleep.  She had a smile on her face and seemed to be more at peace sleeping so I called the nurse back and told her that they should put her into bed as her head was just bobbing on her chest and she looked so uncomfortable.  I really don’t see her as bouncing back and as strange as it sounds, I hope she just goes to sleep and passes on comfortably.  It is at the point that all the things done to just keep her alive are becoming torture to her and although she is alive, is it a life?  I just wanted you to know and I will keep you informed all the way.  Give Ginger my love and tell her that although all the talk doesn’t mean much now, she should thank God that she was able to get out of this destructive relationship before she was irreparably scarred both emotionally and physically.  Having worked in Probation in Family Services at one time, I saw more sad stories than I could handle.  I would never want to see this happen to one of my family.